It’s an interesting experience to put yourself out there and date when you have a chronic health condition. Couple that with a condition that most people know very little about. There are questions or immediate visits to Dr. Google when “endometriosis” is first brought up.
Of course there is no problem when a person expresses interest in learning more about endo. It’s actually refreshing that someone would want to know more about something that plays such an important role in your life.
The interesting part comes after…
I remember the first time I opened up to a guy about Endometriosis was on Bumble.
He was understanding, patient and took the time to research and ask questions, it was definitely something that I have never experienced before. I was able to find someone who understood ME 🙌🏾
While we were dating I noticed some red flags 🚩 🙅🏾♀️ but I found myself making excuses for his behaviour because he was that first guy who understood my condition and made me feel important in that moment.
I started to realize the “flaws” that would most often lead to a swipe left or nothing past a first date are overlooked because you feel someone might be willing to “put up with your condition”. Endometriosis may make us feel “less than”, “not worthy”, “broken”. As though we need to put up with things we normally wouldn’t and accept second best 🙄
This mentality has to change 💛 We are beautiful inside and out. We deserve anything and everything like anyone else. We should hold out for the best! Dating with endo is not about forgetting who we are; it’s about remembering the great qualities we possess and holding out for the one who will also see that, ENDOMETRIOSIS AND ALL! 💛